Maybe I am just a hard-arse but I have always seen D/s and love as two entirely separate forces of Nature. In other words, it is no secret that I love my alpha more than life and have soaked up too many of her tears to doubt that she loves me no less in return. But love is not the basis of our relationship. The promises that bind us were made long before we became lovers and will be kept even were we to end up hating each other.

That’s what I mean about the two being separate. I think that is what makes D/s relationships so special. Sadly, atoo often, feelings shift like sand but promises are rocks upon which castles can be built.

That is why alpha and I both agree that our love for each other is a happy accident and unexpected bonus. That is why I think we also agree that, being different, love makes its own rules! It doesn’t care who or what you are, it just takes you over and will have its way whether you like it or not.

To put it another way, I don’t think it matters who says it first. I don’t think it matters if nobody says it. If it really is love, you just both know that its there. It’s like standing in front of a mountain. You can just feel its majesty. Its existence does not depend upon words.

As it happens, though, I think I said it first. Then I think we both cried with relief at finally having it said and out in the open. I know I did.

Listen to your heart and to hell with handbooks. If what you feel truly is love, there is no user-manual! It just is!