You have every reason to feel disapponted, Xan_in_chains.

I agree completely with the others, it's a safety issue. I mean, what would you do, for instance, if a domme were to demand you have unprotected sex? They're not called "hard limits" for nothing, you know?

However, I feel this has nothing to do with “hard limits’.

She got drunk and phoned you up to give you orders? You’ve got to ask yourself if this woman can’t control herself, her drinking, and what she does when she’s drunk, how the hell can you possibly expect her to have responsible control over someone else—namely you? Get rid of her. Go find yourself a domme who will appreciate you and your limits, and the lifestyle generally.