Ok, well, thankyou all for your advice. It mmakes me feel a lot better to know I wasn't being just ridiculous or anything. As for the variables-it was not something we had discussed as a limit before; however, she had previously discussed cheating with me at length. Now, I'm not sure if it might seem too vanilla a concept but I feel like I owe loyalty to her. Perhaps if it was something where she ordered me to do what ever at say, a club because she enjoyed voyeurism that might have been a touch different. but just out of the blue, and in contrast to what had previously been decided, it left me somewhat insecure about where I stood. But I do take your points about having been drinking. Rather... irresponsible I suppose.