Hey at least I don't feel so alone now lol. Now while our play session was rather blah last night cuz I was so not in the mood I did climax once. I noticed something because I was really paying attention to what I was doing with my body. I was actually trying to hmmm I guess push out like you do when you are having a child. I couldn't do it I mean I could for a few seconds but then it was like I would tense all up again and I would be for lack of a better term sucking in clenching the muscles you tighten to do kegels basically. I think this could be part of my problem I am sucking when I should blow lmao!