Quote Originally Posted by Voodoo_Child View Post
However, for some reason, I still won't always tell him what I'm thinking. I get frustrated that we can't seem to ever talk about anything and, therefore, resolve issues. Some of it is my fault for not being forthcoming when he asks me to tell him what's on my mind. For goodness sakes, I still hesitate to tell him what I want during sex! I don't want to tell him what to do. I don't want to be pushy. I don't want to cause stress. When I send him an email, I try to communicate all the thoughts and feelings that I can't put a voice to when I'm with him. It quiets me for a time, but then, the emails go unanswered....a discussion never comes about.....and I know he knows how I feel.....so the problem is that I don't know what he's thinking or how he feels. It's not very reassuring.
Hi Red
Thats one of my problems too. even if i´m usually quite talkative it´s not easy for me to talk about my feelings, most of the time holding back a little, never opening up fully to anyone...however this is much easier for me in wriitng as i have more time to think about what i want to say and how. I don´t want it to be misunderstood and i´m always a little frigthened about the reaktion that will come... no reaktion at all, which mostly seems to be the case with me, is worst of all. I have to press him for an answer, then feeling bad, but still he always gives me the feeling of him beeing concernes and i mostly feel very comfortable with him. I don´t know what the difference between this guy and others is, somehow i tell him things i hardly realize for my self...Also when they never talk about their own problems..perhaps thinking that the need of help or only understanding is somethind "undomish"..makes them rather seem to have less feelings which i´m sure they don´t have...
I hope you´ll overcome your problem...
greetings to you
deigja