New Year's Resolution: 128 Slave Rules

[Flaming_Redhead]

Slave Rule #13: i must be both specific and explicit in my speech.

As much as I love to talk, I can't ever seem to just come right out and tell Daddy what I want, especially if he asks me. Is that weird or what? Why should it be so hard to say I want to get fucked in the ass if that is indeed what I want? I'm definitely not hung up on the language, so it must be something else keeping my tongue glued to the roof of my mouth. It's even hard to repeat after him. I hesitate a lot, which sometimes results in some mild hair pulling. *smiles* I still don't always immediately answer. Stubborn? You betcha! The fact of the matter is that I hate directing during sex. I did it while married, and it still sucked (not in a good way). My theory nowadays seems to be "do whatever you want, just make sure I get off at some point." However, there are times I wish Daddy would do this or that, and if he doesn't, it's my own fault for not telling him. *sigh* Cutting off one's nose to spite one's face....

I don't like it when Daddy asks me where I want to eat, either. What if I pick something he doesn't want? It's his money anyway. Shouldn't he get to decide? *tears up in frustration* I know this sounds like I don't want any control whatsoever, but that's not exactly true. I have problems coming to terms when Daddy tries to influence me, i.e. my hair, my clothes, my friends, etc. I want a say in that, but he doesn't want any argument. Then, when he does ask me what I want, I freeze up. I don't want to make a decision, but I will when I see that he won't. Stress stress stress! GRRRRR

Decisions, decisions, decisions! It can take me more than 5 minutes to decide what flavor of ice cream I want from the grocery store. If you think I'm exaggerating, let's go Krogering! You'll be pulling your hair out before we make it through the coffee ailse. That's why God invented grocery lists! Right now, my OCD is going crazy because I'm starting a new job next week. I hate change! I have an incredible urge to go in my son's room and alphabetize by author all of his books. Those kinds of decisions are calming because they mean absolutely nothing to anyone but me. If you think that's bad, I spent today with my son evaluating and somewhat planning everything we were going to do as if I was a teacher instead of his mother. We had bible study/reading, starting in Genesis (the beginning, of course); art (coloring a picture of Adam and Eve); lesson reinforcement (playing with a toy Noah's ark); lunch/home economics (he helped make soup); entertainment (movie); recess (at least 30 minutes of outdoor activities including bike riding, baseball, golf, swinging); snack time; visitation with grandparents; dinner. *eye roll* Told ya it was bad!

What's a poor girl to do when Daddy doesn't want you to speak up when you want to and does want you to speak up when you don't?!? AARRGGHH

Is anyone else out there thinkin' I really suck as this whole submissive thing? 'Cause I sure as hell do!

[deigja]

Is anyone else out there thinkin' I really suck as this whole submissive thing? 'Cause I sure as hell do!

Red I don´t think so. The whole Hair thing is like this: it seems to be important to you, to be a represantation of your personality (which of course is also held up by the way you write here and many other things). Still you give in to your daddy... I think giving in concerning things that are important for you, going through changes that are hard for you is sure enough submissive. that you do it even if it´s not easy... you may well show how hard it is..
Things you don´t care for could easily be changed if it pleased him but were in themself not as strong a sign of your submission... so if it´s perhaps as unimportant to him as it is to you - why should he ask for it??
...just my thinking...
just the same about you beeing able to think for yourself.. where lay the submission in a person not able to decide for him/herself if he/she left all decisions to her partner? it would be pure necessity. Whereas a person totally able to care/think/live for him/herself who conciously decides to hand over certain rights , for example the right to decide the haircolor, would for me certainly be submissive, wether or not she struggles with her own decicions from time to time.

..keep it goin ;-)
greetings deigja

[Polaris]

If you suck at the whole submissive thing, I suck at it too The problem with decisions is that I always have the feeling that I picked the wrong thing...he says "You choose" and I go bananas. I choose A, then get the feeling that I should have chosen B, so I say let's change that to B and he looks annoyed, then I start ranting "Why don't you just tell me what you want?" and he says "You choose!" and I start all over again, and get stuck with an option C neither of us is happy with. It's simple things, really, like "Red or White Wine" (thank heaven for rosé!), or epic decisions as "fish or chicken" (why not beef? maybe turkey? or maybe something vegetarian after all? decisions, decisions, decisions!)

I'm plappering constantly. I'm really talkative. Ask me what I want, and I'm dumbfounded and get out a "I don't know" at best. Doesn't mean that I NEVER know, it just won't come out. So, I can really sympathise...on the other hand, umm, you could sell that as being extra cute and charming, can't you?

[Flaming_Redhead]

Red I don´t think so. The whole Hair thing is like this: it seems to be important to you, to be a represantation of your personality (which of course is also held up by the way you write here and many other things). Still you give in to your daddy... I think giving in concerning things that are important for you, going through changes that are hard for you is sure enough submissive. that you do it even if it´s not easy... you may well show how hard it is..
Things you don´t care for could easily be changed if it pleased him but were in themself not as strong a sign of your submission... so if it´s perhaps as unimportant to him as it is to you - why should he ask for it??
...just my thinking...

That makes sense to me. I was just thinking that it would have been easier if he'd started out with some smaller things to get me used to doing something just because he wants me to.

just the same about you beeing able to think for yourself.. where lay the submission in a person not able to decide for him/herself if he/she left all decisions to her partner? it would be pure necessity. Whereas a person totally able to care/think/live for him/herself who conciously decides to hand over certain rights , for example the right to decide the haircolor, would for me certainly be submissive, wether or not she struggles with her own decicions from time to time.

I totally agree that it's submissive to let him take away the decisions that I'm perfectly willing and able to make for myself.

If you suck at the whole submissive thing, I suck at it too The problem with decisions is that I always have the feeling that I picked the wrong thing...he says "You choose" and I go bananas. I choose A, then get the feeling that I should have chosen B, so I say let's change that to B and he looks annoyed, then I start ranting "Why don't you just tell me what you want?" and he says "You choose!" and I start all over again, and get stuck with an option C neither of us is happy with. It's simple things, really, like "Red or White Wine" (thank heaven for rosé!), or epic decisions as "fish or chicken" (why not beef? maybe turkey? or maybe something vegetarian after all? decisions, decisions, decisions!)

I'm plappering constantly. I'm really talkative. Ask me what I want, and I'm dumbfounded and get out a "I don't know" at best. Doesn't mean that I NEVER know, it just won't come out. So, I can really sympathise...on the other hand, umm, you could sell that as being extra cute and charming, can't you?

LMFAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You sound exactly like me! I'll fudge on the answer by asking, "What are you having?" *ggls* I've been known to have the waitress/waiter come back 2-3 times, until Daddy says, "I don't know what she wants, but I'll have...." It usually pressures me to just pick something.

[~hellish one~]

I am loving this thread, Red. Best one I've come across in awhile.

As much as I love to talk, I can't ever seem to just come right out and tell Daddy what I want, especially if he asks me.

I used to have a problem with this as well, but really, a 'Daddy' relationship really helped me be able to ask for things more easily. I mean what's the worst that could happen? He would say no...right? He's not likely to punish you for asking, unless of course he specifically told you not to ask him that. LOL I think what made it harder sometimes was the fact that I am a shy person in general...and just asking for things...didn't even have to be naughty things...I just always felt like, if he wanted me to have it, he'd let me know. And I didn't want to bother him with it. A lot of the times I had to talk myself into asking for things. Yeah, I know...silly. lol

It's even hard to repeat after him. I hesitate a lot, which sometimes results in some mild hair pulling. *smiles* I still don't always immediately answer.

Oh honey you are preaching to the choir here. I would stutter all over myself when he asked me a question or told me to repeat after him sometimes. It was like, I wanted to answer him sooooo bad, but my brain (and mouth) just froze up! Especially if it was something humiliating. And me hesitating or stuttering like that, of course it got on his nerves. LOL Can't blame him.

Is anyone else out there thinkin' I really suck as this whole submissive thing? 'Cause I sure as hell do!

Pssst...I think his opinion is the only one that really matters, hun. And I can just about guarantee you that he doesn't think you suck at the whole submissive thing.