The first time a partner ever slapped my face during sex, it was definitely a WTF moment. I didn't say anything, just looked at him in shock and horror with wide green eyes. He slapped me again. My eyes watered, but I didn't cry. He slapped me again, softer this time, and smiled, obviously enjoying my confusion as tears welled up. He further humiliated me by pointing out that I was going to cry. *smiles* I don't know why, but the mere mention of tears will make me suck it up so as not to give him the satisfaction. I won't say I got any physical pleasure from the act of having my face slapped. The mental part of it confused the hell out of me. Why didn't I stop him? Why didn't I say anything? I eventually came to terms with the fact that he didn't do it out of anger and that I enjoyed being humiliated. Sometimes, I don't enjoy the method, per se, just the end result.

Arria, I had a totally different reaction to being spit on. My dom will spit on my clit and rub it. The first time he did it, I had an orgasm almost immediately. Then, one night, he told me to open my mouth. I found myself complying, although I was afraid of what he had in mind. When I saw what he was up to, I tried to close my mouth and avert my face, but he grabbed my hair and repeated the command, "OPEN." I immediately opened my mouth, and he let a long piece of drool fall into my open mouth. He did it again and then once more, until he was apparently satisfied, and then told me to close my mouth and swallow. I did, and I was surprised that I didn't gag and retch. Like you, I hate asking for anything....but after he hadn't done it in a long time, I surprised myself by asking him to spit. *smiles* When I bother to think about it, it's gross, disgusting, revolting, degrading, etc........whatever.......I like it.