A topic dear to my heart Qmoq. I've been interested in BDSM since before I knew what it was & in D/s for a long time.

The more I explore forums & sites, the more I see a division between the 'hard & heavies' & the people such as myself who are just not interested in bullwhips & nailing body parts to a plank.

I also find many in R/L relationships look down on those in online ones.

It's sad to see that while this kinky community is generally composed of intelligent broadminded individuals, there's plenty of 'my way is right- yours is wrong'. People who say unless you do it my way, you're merely 'playing' at the lifestyle.

A very sad state of affairs indeed.

I notice however that I seem to have no trouble finding girls to play with & have one collared to me. Perhaps I'm doing alright?

I always thought it was meant to be fun when you get right down to it?

I wonder too sometimes, how many new people are scared off by the pressure to 'get hard or get out?'

Tojo