And in answer to your points, Tojo, I agree! But I think you're being a bit hard on the forum posters - there's plenty of disagreement about how subs/Dom(me)s should act, but I don't think I've seen any flame-posts, people getting snotty with each other. Maybe I've not looked hard enough. Heh.
Yeah you're right Q- but I'm a member of a few different forums, this one's not too bad.

I've got a bit of a thing about this- it's not so much flaming & outright argument, more a never ending series of hints & comments.

I guess it just carries through from the 'real world'-the intolerance for difference. I'm far from innocent myself, as you see by my 'nailing body parts to a board' comment.

Tojo