trusting vanillas

[lily27]

Master's best friend and his wife knows about our lifestyle, and has known about Master's inclinations for years. I am not entirely convinced they understand it though. They think they are kinky because they watch (vanilla) porn and own a couple of vibrators.

But we aren't in their face about it either. They come to our house, and there is no evidence of what we get up to behind closed doors.

I haven't told anyone myself. Oddly enough, I would tell my brother and his wife, if only they weren't related. If I was just a friend to them I think they would be very accepting and understanding, but as my protective older brother I just don't think he could handle it. And that's fine.

But it honestly doesn't bother me that much. I wouldn't feel the need to share details of my vanilla sex life to people, and don't need to share my BDSM one either. Our relationship is still our relationship and we don't hide anything about that... we just keep the private details, private.

I don't expect everyone to understand it either. I live the lifestyle now, and years ago I thought it was extreme, abusive, and involved being kept in a cage all day. It took me YEARS to understand the truth. I wouldn't expect someone never exposed to it to "get it" after a single conversation.

[icey]

Master's best friend and his wife knows about our lifestyle, and has known about Master's inclinations for years. I am not entirely convinced they understand it though. They think they are kinky because they watch (vanilla) porn and own a couple of vibrators.
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lol i know plenty of people like that,'im a spank me wear a blindfold saturday night type' then go all prudish when they learn others are interested in anything different.

the only reason i told my closest friend was because she is an extremely dominant person (she dominated me all the time without never realising it lol)and thought i was in another abusive r/ship when she noticed a few of the little things even though we were always careful to hide things.
i didnt tell her anything about our sex life and she wasnt aware of it until i was dumb enough to tell another supposedly very open minded friend about my site,which she joined and and came on every day without fail for over a year!
i had a few health problems and my x after 19 mths of refusing any contact with his children then came back into their lives as the ''concerned caring daddy'' she told him and my best friend about it knowing full well the trouble it would cause he then joined the site downloaded pics of me involved the local authorities and Icehawk was called abusive violent dangerous shouldnt be near my children and i was a vulnerable unfit mother sick twisted perverted and not responsible as a parent,everyone then immediately dumped us because Icehawk was abusive and controlling (he has never once harmed or threatened me in any way and has always protected me and even saved my life on one occasion) and i didnt 'dump' him like they all told me to do ...

it was a choice between them or him even my parents and sister did the same although i now have contact with them again but under the condition that i visit them and providing they do not come into contact with Icehawk... they will not visit me or support me while he is in my life they wont even come to our wedding ...and all this was caused by my so-called friends and the man who had beat the shit out of me for 10 yrs held knives to my throat in front of my children called them little bastards and abandoned them for almost 2 yrs!!!

and not one of them have ever realised it was my children who have suffered the most.i will never forgive them for that, not ever.

sorry moaning over im just pissed at it all and feeling a bit fed up.
i hope nobody here ever has the experiences we have had.