mastersgem,
I agree with you totally. I don't do submissive and doubt that I would learn much serving other then that it is who I am. Since I already know that what is the point, to test when I will snap and beat the supposed Dom to a pulp?
I was one of the fortunate ones I did have a mentor and a group of Doms that shared their experience with me teaching me. I hate to say it I rejected a lot of their teachings at the time. Today I have grown and use much of it that I felt I will never do that, but there is a lot of it that still leaves me cold.
A Dom treasures his sub and knows that he must be careful in all things because he is taking her on a journey of the mind that can hold some bad surprises for both of them.