Sorry to hear this tina- it's never easy...

It's hard to answer your query without knowing all the facts- for a start, I'm not sure if you've met in person?

If you're only seeing him every couple of months, it doesn't seem to make sense to me to wait for the next meeting.

My suggestion is to use whatever medium you usually use to let him know your decision. If you chat on IM regularly, that's the place to do it.

You sound like you have your head together pretty well- & have thought about this. I'd be surprised if he didn't want to remain friends.

If you have specific questions, feel free to PM me.

Good luck, & let us know how it goes if you like.