I laugh at the term "pay the price". Be very glad I am not your Dominant because when you act out like that to get what you want you would be very unhappy. You aren't being punished for your action you are being rewarded.
If you need heavy pain then that is play, by the way the Play Punishment is a term I also find ludicrous, and should be administered to you on a regular basis as part of your play and as a reward.
What you are saying is that you are topping her from the bottom and that really your in control. She actually dances to your tune. Is making your Dominant really just be a posing top what you really want?