Hi Amber,

You are meeting someone you know - sort of - but not really. Talk to J and ask him what he expects of you at this meeting.

I doubt you're planning anything more than a meeting between friends (or potential friends at least - there is sometimes a difference between on-line friends and people you know in person). Discuss it with J-Go and perhaps J and the other Dom will set ground-rules concerning the meeting - that it is just a meeting of potential friends, and that no play of any kind is welcome or expected. Then stick to the ground rules

Be respectful and show as much respect as the person has earned and demonstrated he is worth being shown. But bear in mind, this Dom is not your Dom. J-Go is. And J-Go is the only Dom you should submit to unless he requires otherwise.

You have no need to submit to anyone who has not earned your submission. In fact, it is wrong to submit just because the person is a Dom. He is not your Dom and has not earned your submission. Be friendly, be pleasant, be your normal self, but order your own food and drink, and leave on your own and take a taxi back to your hotel alone.

Since you have only met on-line - you really don't know everything there is to know about this person. Not everyone on the internet is who they portray themselves to be, after all, and you have no real way of knowing if the private person and public "forum" person are the same.

I know what I'm like - and that I'm trustworthy - but you don't know me - just my words. Were you meeting me, I would expect you to call J-Go when I arrived at the restaurant to meet you, and would expect you to call him during the meal as well - in front of me. I would be concerned about your safety were I in his shoes - and you are meeting a stranger in many respects.

I would also expect to wait at the table after you left - normally I'd wait for a good half hour or so, to let you go without fear that I'd be following you - or I would leave first if you preferred.

Have fun, but your submission belongs to J-Go, and only to him unless he tells you otherwise.