My sub and I, long before she agreed to be my sub, agreed to not go anywhere without each other. I cannot fathom her leaving our home to meet someone without me--with miles of distance between us--or my agreement to such a scenario. I know that most of the world is a lot more comfortable with the concept, but I would never set her up to meet someone w/o me. And she would not either. But, we are old souls, and we are a little different than most. What a situation to put her in! Surely she would find some forum for advice. Thankfully, the advice that (most) of you have provided has been well-intentioned. However, We would simply feel that a person in a devoted (or Dom/sub) relationship would never allow this type of meeting to occur. Please do not misunderstand, there is no judgement implied here--I just cannot comprehend how this type of meeting would be appropriate or justified.