I don't think I have much to add here (unusual for me... I am the lecturing sub ) save to say good luck with it. I know how hard LD relationships can be (several of my vanilla relationships have been famously long distance, I seemed to attract them...). Had you not already mentioned that you were in the process of talking it out with him I would have said be careful how you told him you wanted to end it. I have been on the recieving end of a LD dumping when we were both still very much in love and that was done on the phone and it was really bad for me (no idea what it was like for her). Ok, later on we talked properly and sorted things out but the initial conversation was a nightmare. I personally believe that a relationship needs to end in person if it is going to end properly without a feeling of 'lack of closure' and, if it is an amicable split, the chance to hug each other and actually start out as friends again straight away can be beneficial. So, I would have advised that you mentioned you were having problems in chat or on the phone and said that you needed to have a long talk in person but not actually ended things until you were in person.