Quote Originally Posted by Silus View Post
Have you thought about local munches? Those are a good way to meet like minded people sometimes.
That was going to be my suggestion too. Munches are, imo, superior to clubs and private parties because you do get a chance to see and meet like-minded people who don't have the expectation you are there specifically to jump right into the deep end of the pool.

Quote Originally Posted by mastersgem View Post
Except that the Dom's are on the winning side with a ratio of about 10subs for every Dom - not much of a competition for you guys but for us subs, it's hell haha!
As others have since mentioned, and I will confirm, finding a willing sub may be easier for us... finding a compatible sub is every bit as difficult as it is to find a compatible dom. Maybe moreso, the expectations on Doms is very high.

Quote Originally Posted by jeanne View Post
An observation:

I, too, have noticed that there seem to be many more subs than Doms here...yet I can enumerate at least 5 Doms I've become friends with over the past year who have specifically been looking for a sub and not finding one for themselves. My perception was always that they were tripping over subbies everywhere they turn! It seems that some of the ones who are seriously looking don't really advertise that fact because they don't want to deal with the onslaught of sorta-subs, wanna-bes, etc. So the advice above to just get to know people is correct. You'll find the one who's right for you by treating them as people first. And in the meantime...read as many posts by Doms here as you can. You'll sort out the wheat from the chaff, figure out which ones have something to say that you want to hear, and learn more about yourself along the way. Which is always a good thing.

And I know it's trite...but sometimes the connection with your future Dom comes right out of the blue. But by having read His writings beforehand...you'll know something about Him and who He is and how He thinks and goes about His 'domly' business.
That's good advice in all venues. Online, munches, clubs, and parties. Go. Look around. Learn. Maybe explore a bit. Don't push... and it just seems to come to you. But then, I believe that is true in all perspectives of life... not just (bdsm) relationships.