It's quite a common question around here, which isn't a surprise at all, because it's generally a question often asked: can I have the relationship I want? And I believe the answer infallibly is 'yes, you can'. That isn't a guarantee, though.

The chances of finding someone to treat you the way you want, of course depend on how common your wishes are. Maybe the most frustrating thing about this is that your guy will be asking himself the exact same question; if he were to take a random girl out, his chances of her liking to be treated like a worthless slut in the bedroom aren't that great altogether either.

But yes, you can have the relationship you dream about and long for, it would be ridiculous to say you can't. (But then again, maybe I'm too young and not cynical enough.) And I think you came to the right place to talk about this; with the way you describe yourself I wouldn't be surprised some men here will be interested.