I didn't mean to sound as if I didn't believe you could be respected in a D/s relationship. My Sir and I treat each other with the utmost respect and frankly if we didn't the trust required for our relationship wouldn't be there. However, the point was that it sounded as if she wasn't interested so much in a D/s relationship as a vanilla with kink.
All good relationships require sitting down and talking with your partner(s). That's the key to finding out what you really like and what your partner likes and is willing to engage in. I've had strictly vanilla partners who got a wild hair and decided to try to be dominant...it didn't end pretty for either myself or them because they carried the "slut" out of the bedroom when neither of us wanted that.
There's a line between kinky vanilla (read: normal) and a D/s relationship. The person doing the asking definitely needs to know what they really want before asking for it though.