Yes of course you can have it all- people who don't, often have themselves to blame to some extent.

I too have a problem with the 'worthless slut' thing- even just in roleplay. My wife used to be dead keen on that sort of thing (back in the days when we were young & healthy!)

I used to go along with it as much as I though appropriate, but I never would have said anything like that to her. That would be like going out to my bike & calling it a 'heap of shit'