H&HSC Mentoring Program...

[Alessa]

in r/l M/s relationship for about 6 months.

just PM.....

Hello! My name is Alessa, I am 21 and a noob as it were to the bdsm scene.

Firstly, what does r/l mean?

And secondly, because I am new I am not really all that up to snuff with protocol or certain daily things a submissive does so if anyone can give me any pointers, it would be much appreciated.

[~faerie~]

Hello! My name is Alessa, I am 21 and a noob as it were to the bdsm scene.

Firstly, what does r/l mean?

And secondly, because I am new I am not really all that up to snuff with protocol or certain daily things a submissive does so if anyone can give me any pointers, it would be much appreciated.

r/l is real life...as opposed to o/l online.
As for daily things...it all depends on you and your Master/Mistress if you have one, or the one you will find. Figure out what you like and go from there.

Check out the rest of the forums there is so much info on here it can be a little overwhelming. Take your time to explore. Check out the chat room...don't be shy no one will bite...or maybe they will. *grins*

Don't be afaid to pm (private message) any one of us or any one of the moderators. we are all here to learn and grow.

Welcome!

Shy

[butterflySlave4u]

r/l is real life...as opposed to o/l online.
As for daily things...it all depends on you and your Master/Mistress if you have one, or the one you will find. Figure out what you like and go from there.

Check out the rest of the forums there is so much info on here it can be a little overwhelming. Take your time to explore. Check out the chat room...don't be shy no one will bite...or maybe they will. *grins*

Don't be afaid to pm (private message) any one of us or any one of the moderators. we are all here to learn and grow.

Welcome!

Shy

*grins*

Look at you bein' all "not shy" and stuff!! Good for you, sweetie!!!

and absolutely, denuseri, i'd forgotten all about the moderators!! it's their jobs to guide ALL of us, and Alessa, if THEY can't help, they can find someone who can!

Karen

[Lady Hecate]

I am completely brand new to this lifestyle, and I have found a sub Trainer on this forum, and I do like Him very much.

But, that said, I do occasionally feel a little awkward about learning to behave in a 100% submissive way.

Like you, Bfly, I do realize that I have always been submissive. It has always taken an enormous effort for me to act like I am "in charge", and even then sometimes I have been told by others that I am not very convincing in that role.
For example, a few years ago I went to college and studied Early Childhood Education for a brief period. One of the teachers actually made the observation (ie.,she told me) that I always seemed more like a student than a teacher when I was working with my group of children. She never elaborated on that, but I know it was a general observation about me having a more submissive personality type.
But anyway, I digress lol! My point was, I do naturally lean toward being more submissive, but regardless of that, I still find it a bit of an adjustment to get used to the demands of a Dom/Domme.

So I am very happy to see that there are lots of other female subs out here who are willing to offer emotional support.
Thanks Bfly, and everyone, if I ever feel like I need to talk about sub-related issues again, I will make sure to get in touch with one of you.
Again, thanks, this is greatly appreciated.