as a sub in a BDSM life style i feel sex is only to be with the one you are subbing under.. I love sex with bdsm but.. only with the person dear to me.. MY Master.. any other play is to be without sex.. and that i love to.. I love to serve and service without the worry of sex.. i truly believe that they are two separate issues.. and should only be combined when i am with the one i am intimate with..

i have been to many parties and believe me sex is a no no with the BDSM too me that is the best way..

I wouldn't want sex with anyone at a party even a private one .. and i don't like it in o/l at all..

Give me tasks and i am happy .. spank me tie me up and torture me .. i melt to .. but some person on the net tries to make it sexual and i walk away..

That is just me but i feel sex is personal and shouldn't be shared with all..

hugs
snow