What am I? Sub? Dom? Wannabe?

[Flaming_Redhead]

You sound like a switch to me. It's not uncommon for a switch to lean more heavily towards submission or domination. It doesn't have to be perfectly balanced. Also, the whole purpose of doing this is for the enjoyment of all involved, so wanting to see a submissive enjoying herself under your hand doesn't make you less dominant. It just means you aren't much of a sadist. The great thing about submitting in a D/s relationship is that you can negotiate how much control you're willing to give up. Many times, as trust is built up, the boundaries are pushed.

The most important thing, though, is telling potential partners the truth. Some submissives would be horrified if you tried to get them to top you while some dominants would prefer that you be entirely submissive without any desire for control. If you try to suppress your desires in order to please someone else, you may wind up very unhappy and unfulfilled.

[Rowen]

You sound like a switch to me. It's not uncommon for a switch to lean more heavily towards submission or domination. It doesn't have to be perfectly balanced. Also, the whole purpose of doing this is for the enjoyment of all involved, so wanting to see a submissive enjoying herself under your hand doesn't make you less dominant. It just means you aren't much of a sadist. The great thing about submitting in a D/s relationship is that you can negotiate how much control you're willing to give up. Many times, as trust is built up, the boundaries are pushed.

The most important thing, though, is telling potential partners the truth. Some submissives would be horrified if you tried to get them to top you while some dominants would prefer that you be entirely submissive without any desire for control. If you try to suppress your desires in order to please someone else, you may wind up very unhappy and unfulfilled.

Thanks. Indeed I lack all sadistic tendencies.. not my thing. And yes, I try to be as open and honest as possible - however confusing that at times me be!
It has learned me so far that there are dominants that like a 'willfull submissive" and there are (newbie) submissives that love a "gentle dom"