Dominants: Who am I? How did I get here?

[HardHand]

I am new to this. What is the first thing you do after you get info from your sub on her needs and what she wants.How do you start the actually process?

[Ozme52]

I am new to this. What is the first thing you do after you get info from your sub on her needs and what she wants.How do you start the actually process?

HH, You remember her needs and use them as a reward system for appropriate behavior.

Then begin her training... because she must serve your needs.

Now I realize, you're new and don't really understand your own needs yourself... so I think it's okay to start off with some mundane things... but DO NOT think you can get totally comfortable ONLY with making mundane demands. You have to admit to yourself, the dark fantasies that really turn you on... in order to turn her on.

Okay... so a mundane thing might be a favorite meal. Or make her wash your car... (but make her wear scanty clothing or whites, and make sure she gets nice and wet...) and make sure you remain in attendance... and watch her cook your meal, watch her wash your car.

It's important that your presence is felt by her... that she knows you have a first hand interest in the quality of her service to you...

and then, when it comes time to reward her... take notes and report back here. We're all voyeurs you know.