How to pick a Dom in a crowd???

[romanticx]

i think looking for men with dominent qualities can be diffucult, i think someone in the last one about subs someone said they display some qualities of women who end up in abusive relationships i think thats true also when trying to spot a dominent man theres a fine live between dominence and abuse i think the thing that makes it different is that there has to be respect for each other a deep loving respect.

[Ragoczy]

i think looking for men with dominent qualities can be diffucult, i think someone in the last one about subs someone said they display some qualities of women who end up in abusive relationships i think thats true also when trying to spot a dominent man theres a fine live between dominence and abuse i think the thing that makes it different is that there has to be respect for each other a deep loving respect.

That was me and I agree with your corollary.

The difference between dominant and abuser, in my opinion, is self-respect and self-awareness. The dominant knows what he is and what he wants, but his self-respect will not allow him to take and abuse, so it must be given willingly.

Self-control, as well -- the abuser responds to disobedience by losing control, while the dominant becomes more in control of himself to respond with firmness and discipline.

[MacGuffin]

Self-control, as well -- the abuser responds to disobedience by losing control, while the dominant becomes more in control of himself to respond with firmness and discipline.

Agreed. Before you can control others you must first learn how to control yourself!

[Sir Robert]

i think looking for men with dominent qualities can be diffucult, i think someone in the last one about subs someone said they display some qualities of women who end up in abusive relationships i think thats true also when trying to spot a dominent man theres a fine live between dominence and abuse i think the thing that makes it different is that there has to be respect for each other a deep loving respect.

Finding the right Dom is not much different from finding the right sub. We are all different and react differently to each situation. I try to learn what my sub wants and needs and then if she begns to act up try to understand why. if I can figure that out then generally I know how to handle the situation without making her feel misundertood and not appreciated.