How to pick a Dom in a crowd???

[Ragoczy]

i think looking for men with dominent qualities can be diffucult, i think someone in the last one about subs someone said they display some qualities of women who end up in abusive relationships i think thats true also when trying to spot a dominent man theres a fine live between dominence and abuse i think the thing that makes it different is that there has to be respect for each other a deep loving respect.

That was me and I agree with your corollary.

The difference between dominant and abuser, in my opinion, is self-respect and self-awareness. The dominant knows what he is and what he wants, but his self-respect will not allow him to take and abuse, so it must be given willingly.

Self-control, as well -- the abuser responds to disobedience by losing control, while the dominant becomes more in control of himself to respond with firmness and discipline.