Face slapping

[HOMER2]

This is something I always wanted to do with a submissive woman, but in my humble experience, they only liked to be slapped south of the face.

Just an observation of course, but maybe they are worried about being marked. open-handed slapping may be alright.

What are peoples experience of this on here please.

[AdrianaAurora]

Personally it makes me cringe. For two reasons: one, face is so easily injured and two, for me its synonymous with rage and abuse. But again thats just me.
I have heard of plenty (submissive) women who like it, more precisely read about it in online discussions, lol.

[Arria]

I like it very much, but only with hubby in a sexual context.

If it happened outside the bedroom, it would be a reason for divorce.

If it is done correctly, no injury will occur.

But as with every other technique, it depends on the person if he/she likes it or not... there is no such thing as "all real submissives love this" etc.

[bip0lar]

i like having my face slapped--but not by anybody. I agree with Arria on this one, if the wrong person does it, he gets kicked in the balls, end of story.
And it does make me cringe, even from the 'right' person, but in a nice tingly kind of way. It also scares me in a nice context, I feel that rush of adrenaline I get when whipped or choked.
But, then again, that's just me.

[denuseri]

I have been told i "slap" well, on the recieving end that is, i dont see an issue with it if its done in the proper context between two consenting adults

[mighty_marc]

One thing seems to be clear: Having the face slapped creates intense feelings in both, the one who is slapped and the one who does the slapping. It is therefore that opinions about this subject vary very much - as it can also bee seen by looking at the ansers in this thread - even among us: people who generally enjoy slapping or being slapped.

It is due to this intensity of feelings that I think that it is interesting, but when done, it has to be done with great care due to possible injuries and (even more important9 due to possible emotional pain. Face slapping can hurt!
If however both partners are comfortable with each other, feeling each other's mood and thoughts it can be an interesting game, due to this psychological aspect.

Personally I would only slap the face if I had had this person as a partner for long time already, knowing all her dreams and fears and of course only if this game would first of all create positive emotions in her.

[Flaming_Redhead]

I wouldn't say I enjoy it. I tolerate it without going ballistic.

[steelish]

One thing seems to be clear: Having the face slapped creates intense feelings in both, the one who is slapped and the one who does the slapping. It is therefore that opinions about this subject vary very much - as it can also bee seen by looking at the ansers in this thread - even among us: people who generally enjoy slapping or being slapped.

It is due to this intensity of feelings that I think that it is interesting, but when done, it has to be done with great care due to possible injuries and (even more important) due to possible emotional pain. Face slapping can hurt!
If however both partners are comfortable with each other, feeling each other's mood and thoughts it can be an interesting game, due to this psychological aspect.

Personally I would only slap the face if I had had this person as a partner for long time already, knowing all her dreams and fears and of course only if this game would first of all create positive emotions in her.

Hmmm, face slapping...

I have to agree with mighty_marc; it creates very intense feelings between partners. For me, it makes me feel even more submissive. ('Specially if he is holding a fistful of my hair with his other hand)

Of course, this works for me only if I have complete trust in him and he is mindful of my psychological wellbeing.

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[sisterhoney61 {RW}]

No face slapping for me. I got enough of that in my abusive first marriage. That is a major trigger for me. That, and having hands near my throat.

[eVile]

Face slapping is a major turn on for me. It's precisely the rage and abusiveness of it that makes it so appealing. I find the physicality of it very gratifying as an accompaniment to vigorous fucking.

[bip0lar]

IDCrewDawg: what do you mean?! no posts are blank :S

[snowflake]

IDCrewDawg: what do you mean?! no posts are blank :S

I am finding the first one other then a little man waving and Steel1ish has only a little book you can click on if that is what he means

There was also another the Text went missing on in breast cuffs.. in BDSM chat

The poster even mentioned it underneath the post

As far as face slapping goes as long as it is Master doing it for the right reason and not really to hurt/bruise but to keep me reminded to pay attention or other reason in a submissive state .. Especially when being disciplined or taunted {{shhh}} then i enjoy it..blushes

But do it out of anger or rage ...

be glad if you don't find yourself on the floor

My opinion


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snow

[HOMER2]

Some of my posts are blank and I am not sure why as I am sure I have not contravened any rules. I had problems with my visitor messages before and although it is sorted now, its enough to get one paranoid.

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IDCrewDawg: what do you mean?! no posts are blank :S

They were when I posted.

Now the problem seems to be fixed, and I believe there was a tech corner thread about it a few days ago.

[HOMER2]

Thank gawd for that!!!

[Ozme52]

It doesn't even have to be a real slap. Something symbolic, my hand cupping her chin, extending my fingertips and regrabbing her chin including the side of the cheek, has all the intent of a slap, gets the same emotional reaction, and establishes her submission... when something has occurred that garners a moment of rebellion.

[sipgirl]

It doesn't even have to be a real slap. Something symbolic, my hand cupping her chin, extending my fingertips and regrabbing her chin including the side of the cheek, has all the intent of a slap, gets the same emotional reaction, and establishes her submission... when something has occurred that garners a moment of rebellion.

Oh Oz!!!!!I swear!!
Ehhem...ANYWAY LOL!!
I had a bad relationship and used to freak out when anyone put their hands near my face. The first time He did I was shocked and then realized how turned on I was by it. I suppose the fact that we have a deep love and trust allows me to accept his hand slapping my face as a form of discipline or smply as an attention grabber when I am being "bratty". Sometimes it does bring tears to my eyes, but I really think thats more of the humiliation aspect of being slapped in the face. For me humiliation does it every time...that and knowing that I could stop him if I wanted to but dont/wont!!!
Mmmmmm think I deserve a good slap!!!

[steelish]

Hmmmm, my post above seems to have gone blank!

What I had said is that I enjoy having my face slapped during a scene. It does make me feel even more submissive. Of course, it has to be done in the right context, and I have to completely trust the Dom.

[Ozme52]

Oh Oz!!!!!I swear!!

Makes ya hot, don't it.

[Virulent]

From my experience, most women who enjoy being slapped tend to regret it later. I'd recommend cocking your hand back, holding it for a second, and then slap 'em once. Too much enthusiasm can lead to a lot of post-coital complaints; and fair ones too. If I'm leading the dance, its my fault if I waltz us into the punch bowl. Restraint is for Doms.

[Kuskovian]

Well said indeed. My girl said you have returned. The forums have been lacking a certian sanguine verve without you. LOL. Wellcome back.

[snowflake]

It doesn't even have to be a real slap. Something symbolic, my hand cupping her chin, extending my fingertips and regrabbing her chin including the side of the cheek, has all the intent of a slap, gets the same emotional reaction, and establishes her submission... when something has occurred that garners a moment of rebellion.

Yep that also does it for me... sits back and hopes Master gets that way tonight..

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snow

[sipgirl]

Makes ya hot, don't it.

I suppose the appropriate answer would be...absofreakinlutely!!

[Hime]

I like having my face slapped lightly -- more symbolically than anything else. My GF really likes to be slapped, sometimes pretty hard. It makes me a little nervous to do it, because I wouldn't want to hit her eye or something. :-/

[damyanti]

Its a major trigger for me...so if I would agree to have that done to me, it would have to be with someone I feel safe with and whom I trust to be "gentle", it certainly couldn't be used as discipline for myself without negative consequences and or on a regular basis.

It doesn't even have to be a real slap. Something symbolic, my hand cupping her chin, extending my fingertips and regrabbing her chin including the side of the cheek, has all the intent of a slap, gets the same emotional reaction, and establishes her submission... when something has occurred that garners a moment of rebellion.

That could work nicely, .

[star_sparkle]

in a previous non bsdm relationship i had, i used to bite him...and he would threaten to slap my face if i did it again, and being my sassy self, i would just bite him harder, thus earning the slap. one ot two slaps per session was all it took. god it used to make me hot.

[Mastrovenice]

I've had subs of both opinions. One hated it and had its as a hard limit, the other, well lets say it was a prerequisite for her to get rolling. I never realized its power until I saw the effect it had on subs that allow it. As a Dom, I enjoy it very much.

[dillinja]

i use it as an attention getter for my sub. She does not like it as a turn on, but she understands its just a repremand and not me trying to harm her. I dont like doing it, im afraid im going to blacken an eye or just end up knocking the crap outta her, she's a tiny lil thing and i got huge mechanic hands. Most of the time i can just raise my hand back and threaten a slap and she get's the point, i dont know if she's just extra frisky or something some days but every once in a while she gets the bite..

another thing i do sometimes is that slap to the back/top of the head thing. I dont know what to call it, but everyone has seen it and done it before. It really pisses most people off, and when i do it in the opening of a scene it sets her in the mood like "ok MF'er i can take what you got, bring it" which always is fun for the both of us.

[orchidsoul]

It doesn't even have to be a real slap. Something symbolic, my hand cupping her chin, extending my fingertips and regrabbing her chin including the side of the cheek, has all the intent of a slap, gets the same emotional reaction, and establishes her submission... when something has occurred that garners a moment of rebellion.

mmmmmmmm now THAT is hot!

but overall my instinct if someone's hand comes towards my face is to make sure they go down before I do. Thankfully, I've never had to lay a hand on another in my life.

Although, perhaps that's the attraction. Siipgirl mentioned it's almost more the humility of accepting.

For those of you that do enjoy your face slapped, is that part of it? Or is it the pain? Or the surrendering? Or perhaps all and some?