My heart is with you. My dad died of exactly the same thing, its one of the worst kind. My advice to you is...seek another opinion about whether or not its operable. That was the mistake we made. Even though we knew his primary doctor was a jerk, we had no idea he was also utterly incompetent. By the time we contacted a brilliant surgeon who had great success operating cancer at such difficult areas, it was truly too late as it had spread too far.

Please, if you or your wife need anything, or have any questions, do not hesitate to contact me.