Wise words indeed, and words that should be said more often as well in my humble opinion. All this true submissive stuff makes me feel insecure rather often than not, and weirdly moreso now that I'm not the complete newbie anymore. I would like to add, however, that these 'you are not truly submissive if you...' statements do not only come from dominants, but also very often from other submissives. I am not ultra-super-duper-perfect-slave. I doubt I can be. And yet, that's the picture that's mostly presented to me -- if you are truly submissive, you'll find a way to be ultra-super-duper-perfect-slave. If not, you got a life that interferes yaddayadda, you are simply not submissive, but merely pretending in one way or another. Honestly, that bothers me. And now I'll stop ranting