i dont know if im qualified to add to this discussion but i feel i must as i have has a bad experience with a Dom who when i questioned how far he was going became very abusive and really upset me.
if it hadnt been for the fact i recognised someone id spoken to before and asked her if my actions were justified i would have left ...possibly for good...(she assured me they were)
as a newbie and not really knowing the system, he was able to manipulate my feeling and make me feel worthless...to be honest he made me cry!!!! and i didnt join for that sort of treatment.
any help to stop another person suffering that would be fantastic but as others have, more wisely, said i dont know how to achieve this xx