Where have the good Doms gone?

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I will be devils advocate again and say I dont agree. Here's why.........

Looking for a good Dom? Have not been able to find one yet and keep seeing others get collared? Let's take a look at why that may be.
Yes and it may be a lot of other things as well like it takes time or there are more subs than (good) doms here.

Stand in front of a mirror and take a look at yourself. Can you look yourself straight in the eye and say that you are happy with who you are?
Is there anybody in the world who can. Only those with a narcissus complex or living in denial perhaps. I'm not saying one shouldn't be aware of one's own flaws but no need to blame yourself. You are who you are and for sure there is somebody out there who likes who you are,

Now step back, strip off anything you have on and take another look at yourself. Take a good look.
You lost me on the need to strip given it is a net world. Surely thats the beauty of the net, a big untidy slob like me has hope of finding love, happiness and even sex. Please don't tell me I have to lay off the beer and lose the gut to get laid?

How about your pubes and body hair? Is your body hair the type that adds interest, dimension or form to your body?
What has a girls pubes got to do with finding an online Dom. (I like a forest down there anyway and if anybody is going to cut the trees it will be me)

If you're not in service but are looking to be, what image of your service are you projecting to any potential Dominant if your personal appearance is sloppy?
Readers may be interested to contrast this view with those on this thread
http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/sh...ad.php?t=17101

Part of a submissive's job is to make their Dominant look good.
Personally I don't like to look good I like to be good. And I want to be good for my qualities not those of my sub. Have you noticed how aging movie stars always have stunning young model girlfriends. I know what I think of those movie stars wanting their woman to make them look good. I'll take the overweight hairy sub and then people know it must be true love.

Knowledgeable Dominants do not want submissives who are doormats or who consider themselves worthless.
Some do, why else the obedience training and use of humiliation as a training tool. Again you are telling subs what Doms want and I am saying it ain't always so. Different doms look for different characteristics. The key point again is compatibity, finding the dom whose interests match the subs.

They want someone who can stay three steps ahead of Them, knowing what They need and having it ready for Them before They even realize
Not me. I like to be three steps ahead of the sub. Thats how I can control and dominate. Always being ahead of the game.

Do you know the proper protocols and rules for the chat room?
If you are suggesting here protocols like calling Doms "Sir" I am one of the Doms who doesn't like being called sir. I may be unusual in this respect and will probably explain my reasoning (Sir maintains distance and I do not want to be distant in an informal chat) in a new thread.

Have you answered yes to most of these questions but are still wondering why you can't find a good Dominant?
I would say don't change who you are. Be your natural self and you will find your natural partner. To misrepresent yourself to attact a dom will only result in getting a dom who you are not truly compatible with and you can guess how long that will last.

Being a submissive for play or sex is one thing. They are a dime a dozen.
Really? Where where where, tell me tell me tell me please. (hey what's life without a little humour)

They would have been the ones standing off to the side of the room, posture erect, hands behind their back.
Maybe, maybe not. In an online chat situation the quiet Dom in the cormer who does not contribute to chat could very well be the lurker. I sometimes wonder how dominant a dom is if, either through shyness or lack of social skills, is silent and does not contribute to chat in a chat room.

It could be you if you take the time to learn just exactly what it means, and how to present yourself you will fins yourself getting noticed by a good Dom
This is saying a sub has to (misre)present herself to attract the dom. I say just be your normal self and if that's the type the dom likes he will notice and come to you. Dont make a cosmetic change just to attract guys. Many guys, including me, preferal naturals to plastic


Clearly I am coming from the other end of the spectrum from Godfather. I respect his views but posted because I think subs should hear both opposing views and then come to their own conclusions.