What if the person is not in the mind set to be aware this is abuse?
I don't understand how someone can treat someone "very badly," call them "very nasty names," and "humiliates" them in any way possible cares for or in any way respects them....
I truly don't understand.
Just because someone consents to something doesn't mean it's not abuse. A small child may consent to a beating because it's the only thing they know, same for an adult.
P.S. Extreme physical and/or mental harm is not a kink or fetish in my opinion. It's abuse.