Welcome to ther real world of BDSM. I have been married 31 years, we have played and practised at BDSM all that time. We have NEVER been in a 24/7 Master/slave relationship. For us, BDSM is a fun way to spice up our relationship. Has she ever said, GO Get F*****d, when I wanted to play. Of course she has. We managed to raise 3 kids, 2 careers, a home, several businesses and all the other stuff that comes with life and still have a good time at BDSM.

Now, Im not saying that there are some out there who manage a 24/7 situation. Im just saying that for me, and for most of us, I think it is more of a pasttime than a lifestyle.

Now, does it really matter which way you have it. Hell No! You find the level that fits your life and that you enjoy and thats what you do, enjoy it. Don't let anyone tell you that you arent real or arent serious if you only play once a month when Grandma keeps the kids for Saturday night. THis is all about having fun, enjoying yourself and doing what fits your life, your means and your interests.

TDS

(shoves my soap box back under the couch)