First any one that uses terms like true sub or true Dom/mie is probably kidding themselves or their partner from the start. NO ONE lives 24/7 to serve or control another. Yes some people paint things in rosy colors and soft sells the issues they have in the lifestyle. Everyone has a life and responcabilites they have to care for and be concerned with. So yes we come home and having had a bad day we are perhaps NOT in the mood to be the cute little PERFECT sub or Reality stopping Dom/mie of a subs dreams.

Like any other realtionship the reality of the BDSM life is that you need to understand the others moods and needs. If you think its going to be perfect just because your in the mood or want it your asking for trouble. Yes, its very pleasing to be greated by your partner offering you the attention they think your wanting to share with them. However you need to read your partner and see if they WANT the attetnion or just some quiet down tim e to blow off stream from a long day. Again this is not much differnt than any other relationship.

When your little girl come home and you ask how her day was and the look you get freeze your arm hair. Then its probably not a good idea to jump into a Dom mode and start a small war. <WG> The same is true for the sub. Your owner comes home and you greet them at the door and and offer them a drink or your submissive services. You get more an annoyed GROWL then the hot looks you expect its best to back off and let them relax a bit.

Daumon