Yup...a relationship involving BDSM is in many ways like any other: you have to know how to listen. I think if anything it's harder than a "normal" relationship. To allow a person to dominate you, or to be the one dominating, well, these things take a level of trust not often found in the average relationship. But at the same time, it can be more rewarding, spiritually as well as sexually.

On a side note, I've never been a fan of anyone who claims that they are a "true" anything. What they usually mean is, there is only one way to be this, and I am it, and you are not. So ha. I just shrug and keep on walking.