I look at it this way icey... *plunks down a couple pennies*

J and I have separate careers, separate responsibilities, and several separate friends. We're very fortunate when we can squeeze in a coffee date, much less a romantic dinner out or a sexy little getaway somewhere. However, are we any less each other's loves during our times of separation than we are when we are across a candlelit table from each other, gazing into each other's eyes?

Nope.

We're still in love, 24/7, even thought we're not actively engaging in the actions our love manifests.

I am just as much J's love when I am yelling out my office door at my techs for taking down my damned server while I'm right in middle of something as J is my love when he's on a guys weekend in the mountains. At any point in my day, if I were to freeze and someone were to ask me, "who do you love?" I would say, "J." If they were to ask, "who loves you back?" I would give the same answer. (Yes, even during the times I want to hurl something at his head for being a total asshat.)

I feel a D/s relationship works the same way. I am J's sub: regardless of if we are in scene or not, regardless of if we're feeling particularly sexual or not, and even regardless of me PMS'ing like a hormone fueled banshee. I am J's sub. I don't have to be prostrate at his feet all day to prove that, it is not who I am on the outside 24/7 that makes my submission so, it is also the commitment I have to him in my heart.

That internal commitment is strong enough to be flexible to outside inevitabilities.

Now, that was prolly more than two cent's worth, so can you break a twenty?