real life!

[icey]

wow, i am so glad i saw this thread, this really makes me feel a lot more comfortable to know that i am not alone in my feelings. Real life does have its way of worming into our fantasies, but if it didnt we would not have all of the other things in our lives that are so enjoyable, or miserable, and in that case you have some one to hold you or you to hold them. That everyones ideas of this are different and that no matter how you look at it, what ever works for you and feels right, it doesnt matter what everyone else says. ( well unless they agree of course )

im glad to know im not the only one who feels this way..phew!!!
i was beginning to think i was the deluded one and needed to get my very own pair of rose tinted glasses!,
amber i know what you mean about the pms banshee thing, lol i just didnt know subs were allowed such a luxury as pms.
amber,i feel for J-go if your fueled hormones at that time of month are anything like mine lol.

there were many more things i wanted to put in my OP about some of the romanticised things people say, im not saying there's anything wrong with romance but i do get fed up of the same old quotes and bdsm style lines and talk all the time and wish more people would be more comfortable or open with using their own.
because and this is not intended as an insult im including myself too, i think in some ways we're all a little guilty of that to some degree or another, kind of like we've become a little 'conditioned' to all the ettiquette (im not talking about the all subs should ask permission to speak use titles to all and sundry type ettiquette) for worry of being different and not presenting ourselves in the correct way a bit like society in general except ours being a 'bdsm society'.

but i didnt because it would probably have come across as dismissive,scornful or mocking no matter how i'd worded it it would i think have come across a bit rude and disrespectful and didnt want to start a riot.