icey Thank You for this OP!

I am curious about BDSM but I think of it as a fantasy to escape from real life not as real life
I want the whole experience to be grand and played out to the limits. Dinner before at a nice restaurant while my husband begins to quietly verbally explain to me who I am
Then to come home and live out the fantasy

I would hate to think BDSM is just vanilla sex with a new name