Great question, and I hope by responding I'm not intruding on what is so far a sub-only thread, but I've always believed that the best way to get to know someone is to be a genuine listener so I've been genuinely listening to you all here. Hopefully when you spot a Dom he won't look like he's trying too hard, but he won't look like he didn't try at all. He'll dress like he meant it. He'll be comfortable with himself and with others - all others. He won't be trying to prove anything, or look rich, because both are very pointless ways to keep score. Hopefully he'll come across as an interested and practised observer; surveying the room and lingering on what interests him. The best Doms are those who know their possessions well through considered observation and relentless learning. Yes he'll probably hold your gaze, out of confidence, that observant nature, but also because looking away immediately would be impolite. A man in control of himself and his ego never needs to be impolite just to show he has the balls to make that choice. When you talk to him he won't tell you about his fancy car in the third sentence, and he'll remember your name the first time. He'll notice your shoes, your earrings, when you look down, what makes you smile, and he'll look forward to the first of a thousand kisses just as much as you will.