Knowledge is power, and to know oneself means less confusion and self-delusion. The source of one's submission/dominance is sadly, not always pretty (there is a long-going extremely helpful discussion of abuse on the boards here somewhere), but by turning these events into something that gives us pleasure, that is the true magic of D/s. Not to question and delve into this is almost irresponsible for what we do can often release strong emotions that confuse, surprise or dismay ourselves and our partners.

Plus, for me, the puzzle is irresistible.