Ragoczy - it is amazing what people will say online. i go to another site where people are downright mean & that is virtually the only way you will be accepted is if you fall in to that same way of posting. why bother?

love2serve - what a lucky woman you are to have such an open relationship that your husband sees your playing online as a benefit rather than a threat. enjoy!!!

Mastrovenice - it's an interesting approach - trying on other personas as a way to see what the other side deals with. sort of like a Dom trying out His latest toy just to understand what His girl will be feeling? i don't think i could keep up a different persona for long, it seems too time consuming to remember the lies. but role-playing is certainly something else. there's another chat room i've been to a couple times (but don't go anymore) where it seems like it's just assumed you're there to construct the fantasy. user nicknames in the room are things like: sluttymom4utouse or daughterlooking4dad...

RickBulow - hi! we joined bdsmlibrary around the same time! nice to see you back.

damyanti - isn't it surprising when you find out someone hasn't been up front? it's such an awful feeling. and sometimes, most awful when i've realized i haven't been honest with myself.

Oak - i think your comment was meant for damyanti, howeer, i can only say that a Dominant's age is a big deal for me. when i see a 26 year old say he's really really experienced, i have to question that. i remember what i was like at 26 and what did we know?! experience, wisdom, patience are huge turn ons for an old submissive like me! (now, if you're looking for a 26 year old who can't see the benefit of interacting with an older man... well... i can see that side of the issue.)

Pearlgem - you are spot on about intelligence. you really can't fake that. or a sense of humor. i realize not everyone is into grammar & spelling. but in an online world where our written words are sending the message - bad grammar and mis-spelled words are difficult to get past. not a dealbreaker but a hindrance for sure. maybe it's true, too - that if your an asshat in real life, that will shine brightly through here online as well!?