A recent interaction got me to thinking... why is it so difficult to be honest? This is probably a rhetorical question since there are a zillion reasons why, right? I mean - here we are in an online forum, sometimes presenting only the sides of our selves we choose to show.

But I'll give you an example: I come here looking for fun and information. I jump in to chat every so often just to see what's shakin'. I check out the personals just for the heck of it.

I recently met a Dom here who I started interacting with and it was pleasant enough. However, I don't think I was honest with myself or with him in what my intentions were and the conversation ended up in a fizzle. I wasted his time. (as a side note: I truly don't think my intentions were to mislead him since I really wasn't sure what I was looking for. I think I wanted him to resolve some personal issues that he couldn't resolve.)

A second interaction with another man left me feeling befuddled, too. I am a smart, somewhat sane submissive girl. I'm a realist. So when I ask this man if he's playing with other women here, he says no babygirl, it's all about you. Was I wrong to ask the question? If I asked the question, I probably already knew the answer! Did I want to believe it's all about me? (LOL - of course!)

My point is - I would've rather heard - yep, I play with other girls. I think I would've accepted that answer and had a little fun. Rather than find out in a backdoor way that this - in fact - is not the truth.

I've heard some people say that the internet allows us to break down inhibitions, to be MORE ourselves than we'd allow in real life. Sometimes that's true.

What do you think? Is it like real life - sometimes we tell little white lies just so there's no confrontation? Or is it easier to lie when we're sitting in front of a screen? Or - are you as honest as possible??

Ramble over.