Quote Originally Posted by Diablo View Post
But I can try to understand by communicating, my wife is my sub. She is also a person not a thing and we talk about everything including sessions and mutual lifestyle goals. The best thing you can do is teach each other.
I can only agree with that. As I too see my sub, as a real person and not a thing.

Else I've never been submissive and never will be submissive. Back when I found out that I was a dom, there wasn't any help to get and at the age of 16, I was convinced that I was the only one being dominant and even had a lot problems, because you cannot do suff like that to a girl. Hurray for HOM and Harmony. Luckily enough I was able to see what was fantasy and what wasn't.
I really think that he first of all have to find out if he's dom.. and then accept it. After that it more or less comes all by it self