Smells like betrayal...

[Laila]

But it all flows together - how can I discuss my relationship without going into the submissive issue... that is where the small untruths come in.

And it isn't that he doesn't trust me. He just doesn't like the idea of having something so intimate between two people being dragged out to some friends. I think he wouldn't mind if I just told someone I was a sub - but again its not like there is a clear line... this is just me and this is us. And this is just general and this goes into intimacy.

Thank you for your comments though... they make me think and are very helpful

[SubmissiveDoll]

Well if you are lifestyle BDSM then there should be a difference between relationship and sex. I could tell everyone I meet that I'm a sub, and I have a Master. I never have to go into sexual details. I have vanilla friends, they talk about their relationships all the time, and I never have to hear about their sex life.

Yeah there can be fine lines, and I understand keeping the sexual part of the relationship sacred and between only the two of you. I feel the same way. But, I can tell my friends about my relationship, good and bad, without talking about a scene or any sort of sexual playtime.

Sometimes they blend, just talk to your Master and find out what his boundaries are. You can't be expected to never talk to anyone, it's nearly impossible for most women. We share feelings by nature.

But it all flows together - how can I discuss my relationship without going into the submissive issue... that is where the small untruths come in.

And it isn't that he doesn't trust me. He just doesn't like the idea of having something so intimate between two people being dragged out to some friends. I think he wouldn't mind if I just told someone I was a sub - but again its not like there is a clear line... this is just me and this is us. And this is just general and this goes into intimacy.

Thank you for your comments though... they make me think and are very helpful