Quote Originally Posted by Flaming_Redhead View Post
I have come to realize that much of my hurt was self-inflicted. I'm a masochist, after all. Instead of giving him the benefit of the doubt, I chose not to trust him because I don't trust men. He was right. What chance did he possibly have? I don't know if there was anything at all he could've said or did to convince me to trust him. Combine that with the high expectations of how domliness should be....and the reality of life constantly getting in the way.....and you have disappointment waiting to happen, which it did, which just proved to me that.....he was right again. Self-fulfilling prophecy and all that.

I think you mean that insanity is doing the same thing over and over but expecting different results. I'm insane. *nods a lot* They say crazy people don't know they're crazy, but they're wrong. I saw the same behavior pattern occuring this time around, and I'm determined to stop it. I can't control him, but I can control how I react...sort of.
That sounds like it is more comparable to what happened with Tristan. I panicked and pushed Him away. I was basically making Him pay - for something He didnt and would never do - for something someone else did. Thankfully we gave it a second chance and were serious about making it work.

There is nothing wrong with giving it a second chance, it is certainly better than someday wonder what might have been. Its the third and fourth and fifth time...that you should stop and think about what you are doing.

I hope it works out for you. Good luck.