It could be you just weren't ready the first time around, Reds... You weren't yet ready to trust, to let a male into your life & heart like that... and perhaps you weren't even expecting it to happen, which made it seem all the more sudden.

As to second chances... you & I have talked this over before *chuckles*... sometimes 2nd chances are great & they fix exactly what made the train derail the first time. Other times, they just remind us why we split...

I would mention for what it's worth that 2nd chances only work if BOTH parties are willing to put in the effort... he might be leery since the result of the first go around wasn't what he wanted, and he also might just need some more time to test out the water before he jumps in & gives it a second go. You have to decide if you're willing to go slow & have the patience for that... or whether it isn't what you need/want at this point...

Good luck.