We met in 1995. He was the best friend of my then-boyfriend. We fell in lust at first sight & fell in love over the course of a year. We did not do anything physical at all until the week that we decided we were positive that we wanted to be together and actually verbalized our love for each other. We kissed a couple of times that day, and a couple days later I broke it off with his friend. It was only after we were already a couple that we discovered we had compatable kinks and sexual proclivities. Neither of us had ever been in a bdsm relationship before and didn't know where to begin (especially in a small town in PA, in 1996). However, we jumped right in and spent the next few years figuring it out. We married in 1999 and have kids. By the way, I was 18 when we met and he was 21, so while there are certainly many wisdoms to gain with age and experience, I always go out of my way to treat 18 -25 year olds in bdsm with a great deal of acceptance and helpfulness. I know that they aren't always treated too nicely, or taken very seriously in the lifestyle, and I think that's horrible because these are some very lucky people who know what they need and want at a young age. Anyway, enough soap boxing! That is how we met!