I´d like to add that the "I can´t be tamed"-attitude is very helpful in scaring wannabe Doms away - the wannabe sort of Dom who want a doormat because they have a wrong picture of what a sub is, thinking a sub gave up all rights and the use of her brains at the same time, and thinking a person who calls herself a sub must submit automatically to any old douchebag who calls himself a Dom.

This idea strikes me as ridiculous as the idea of suggesting a woman with a boyfriend must automatically be willing to fuck any person wearing trousers, just because they are male, too.

I agree with voxelectronica. I would even go as far to say that a certain amount of single subs can, and want to be, "turned around", but only by the right Dom, by a strong person.

I was like that in real life until I met my Dom. But I was aware all the time what I was doing, and it was intentional that I scared away men who were not strong enough for me. I could never submit to a man who is weaker than myself, or afraid of my mind and mouth.

Mind you, it took me 5 years of search to find a guy who was more strong-willed than I am. However, we have been together almost 11 years now, 7 of them married, and I think it was completely worth the effort.

I have the impression people nowadays have no more patience, and some of them expect to find the perfect partner gift-wrapped at their feet by fate. This is not likely to happen.