what makes a rubbish sub?

[Arria]

@ MistressAnnabelle:
"As for not having enough patience, and looking for a gift wrapped partner; patience need only be spent where there is potential. Otherwise it is a waste of time and effort."

This is true. I did not mean that a Dom should have infinite patience with a certain sub.
I meant it for BOTH sides - and I meant people should have more patience in finding the right partner. I did NOT mean a Dom or a sub should spend infinite patience on a certain person while hoping for things to improve!

"Sometimes problems can be overcome, but the base material must be there."
This sums up what I meant. Have patience in finding the suitable "base material" with the right amount of "potential". It is what I did.

Being what I am, I found a greater amount of crappy Dom people than crappy sub people, but I guess the problem exists on both sides - and I think a bad sub could be as much trouble as a bad Dom, although it is my opinion that a bad Dom can do way more harm to a sub, than the other way round... but that might just be my opinion.

As for the idea of blaming others for not being able to manage/fix one´s own life: I always found that immature and disgusting. If I was a Domme, I would certainly not want a sub who expects me to fix everything that went wrong in her life.
Hell, I had such friends in a completely non-sexual surrounding when I was much younger, and I hated every minute of it, and am very glad I managed to get them out of my life.

If a person cannot handle his/her own life, he/she should not even begin to think about having a relationship.
A relationship should be something between adults who can handle their own life to begin with. Anything else will not work out in the long run, anyway.