hah, yes, i've been through one tricky non SSC situation. At the time it was oddly erotic, i was young--too young for putting myself through that, but in the end it didn't turn out bad. It just didn't turn out good, which was a very good reason to put a stop to it. Manipulation, apparently, has many forms; allowing one's self to be manipulated is one thing, but not realising it and finding one's self in a situation one always thought they'd never allow to get out of hand is another. All in all that non-SSC experience i would today categorise as an experiment that got out of hand. Nothing harsh, at least physically, but certainly a path i wouldn't go down again.